February 26, 2012

Yesterday was set to be one of those

days.  Friday night I was innocently putting Nicholas to bed, when I realized I needed to get something.  I oh-so-carefully pulled myself into an upright position, but somehow still did it too quickly.  I was rewarded with swift and intense pain in my right side, so much so that it was minutes before I could move.

The problem with doing something like the above is that the pain doesn't just hit and go away.  It comes and goes in large waves, then dissipates to a continuous cramp-like scenario for the rest of the night.  Lovely, eh?  My bad for doing the surgery, I suppose, but given the outcome (ahem, my improved mood and body image), I will just continue to deal with it.  And, no, no reason to talk with a doctor, it's simply part of the very long healing process.  Did I mention there are no sit-ups or crunches in my near future?

I was worried, though, as I had a rather long Girl Scout event Saturday morning.  I had not originally planned on attending.  However,  the troop was participating in Thinking Day and it promised to be an exciting day for the girls.  I decided on a whim to go, figuring Peter could always pick me up if I started to feel poorly and there was always the afternoon for a naptime.  So at the crack of dawn, we loaded ourselves up in the neighbor's car, taking all possible ethnoplunder for our display and headed off.  

It was a day I am so glad I did not miss.

Thinking Day, if you don't know, used to be called International Day.  Each troop that participates picks a country to study and then puts their knowledge (and food samples) on display during the event.  I'll give you one guess what our troop chose:

 

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So, what was the big deal?  What is the yummy bubble tea one troop sold?  Perhaps the egg and spring rolls the cadettes were selling for a fundraiser?  Guess again!

Yes, it was the chance my girls had to share their experiences of living overseas.  Every picture on our posterboard came from our time in Iceland.  The photo on the swaps (little pins the girls create & trade) was taken by none other than Mr. Salty Dog during the Salty Dog Icelandic Adventure of 2008.  We sold cups of Skyr (which was gobbled up) and had a plethora of Icelandic books and toys to review.  We actually had children wanting to buy the Icelandic toys, which were fake sheep bones (based on Icelandic toys from years past).  

 

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Scooping out the Skyr...

Instead of just reciting what had been learned in an encyclopedia or picked up via Google, the girls in the troop learned from Kelsey and then helped share the knowledge on Saturday.  Those who reviewed our stand had the additional benefit of talking with Cait (who registered as a Girl Scout just for this event), who could write a novel about her three years there.  We didn't just display trinkets we picked up on a trip, but a Buff Kelsey wore to preschool every day, the toys they played with, the books they read, the Icelandic study guides they used (to include from horseback riding) and the medal Kelsey won in the Latibaer Marathon in August 2007.

 

 

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Caitlin swears she would have smiled had I told her I was going to post this photo. I beg to differ, but....

It was one of those wonderful days when you realize that all the sacrifices you make to join the Foreign Service, schlep around the world, and move every 2-3 years are completely worth it.  Your children didn't just visit a country, they inhaled it....lived in it and breathed in the experience every day for 3 years (exactly) of their lives.  They have friends and times they will never forget because they stepped out of a huge comfort zone and into a whole new world.  More importantly, 3.5 years after leaving the country, they are still excited to share it with others.

 

While I am sorry we haven't gone back out sooner, there is nothing like such an event to remind you how excited you are with regard to your next move.  More importantly, that even while State-side, you can still share the excitement of living overseas with others.  It's truly a gift, and one I am so glad to have given to my children.

 

 

February 24, 2012

{this moment}

{this moment} - A Friday ritual. One photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember. If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your 'moment' in the comments for all to find and see. 

 

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Idea courtesy of Soulemama.  

February 23, 2012

Giving It Up

Each year, I rack my brain to come up with something to give up for Lent.  This year, the first time I was asked about my sacrifice, I somewhat jokingly replied that I was giving up Peter for a year.  I honestly had not thought about what I might give up, as I was still in the throes of recovery, thinking that Kelsey would be having surgery today and in overall planning mode for Peter's departure in May.

I've thought about all of the standard things I *could* give up, but here's the deal:

  • As it is, I rarely wear make-up.  So I could humble myself even more and give it up, but that would be maybe one day a week. I don't really see that as much of a sacrifice and certainly nothing that I might even notice.
  • I gave up soda (as in caffeinated beverages made with HFCS) in 2006 for Lent and have rarely had a sip since.  I don't have the desire to drink anything but seltzer now (or maybe an occasional ginger ale), so there goes that idea.
  • Sugar and/or chocolate.  Quite honestly, I don't think I eat enough of either to justify that being a reasonable or noticeable loss in my life. I'm the only person I know who can buy a gallon of ice cream, put it in the freezer and forget about it for 6 months.  Also, sometimes I do need a small lift and a tiny piece of good, dark chocolate helps.  It's not a crutch, but I don't want to feel guilty if I truly need something.
  • Social Media.  A-ha!  If I really wanted to give up something, I suppose I could try giving up FB, Twitter and the like.  Though honestly, I don't use Twitter constantly (I'm lousy at Tweeting) and FB helps me keep in touch with others.  Not sure whether I would seem like I was sacrificing or just suddenly seem very out of touch.
  • Coffee.  Really?  Not gonna happen unless everyone wants a major sacrifice for the next 6 weeks.

Finally, it hit me.  I found something that has been an issue for me for ages and something that I truly need to work on.  It's not just something I cut out of my diet for 6 weeks and then forget about it when Lent is over.  It's an issue I've struggled with for years and have finally realized that I really, really need to get control over this:

I'm giving up being a night owl.

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Now, this might sound like a most ridiculous thing to some, but for me I see this as being a very big challenge.  While I have had issues with insomnia, there is nothing I enjoy more than staying up late, reading a good book, blogging beyond midnight or just catching up with friends (via Words With Friends, Facebook, what have you).  I'll throw laundry in the washer and use the excuse of needing to put in the dryer as a reason to stay up even later.  Then I end up overtired and not able to sleep when I do finally cozy up in my recliner and tend to be a cranky, tired mess in the morning.

So, for the next six weeks, I will sacrifice my ability to stay up late.  

Call it silly, but I see this as a way to touch on several things that I *could* give up and combine into one:

  • Since I won't be staying up later, I will be drinking less coffee
  • I tend to go on FB late at night and/or use the time to blog.  I'll have to find a way to do that earlier in the day.  So less time on social media right there, but I won't feel like I'm ignoring anyone or out of touch. 
  • I might eat less chocolate, since when I do have a good piece, it tends to be later at night when I am having a cup of coffee (and no, the coffee doesn't keep me from sleeping, that's just me).

The benefits I hope to achieve:

  • I'll wake up earlier (naturally) and be less cranky and feel less rushed in the mornings.
  • Perhaps will get Nick to school a tiny bit earlier (he's not really late, but he could get there sooner and I'd have a bit more time for errands and exercise).
  • Other family members (who will remain unnamed) might try to quell their night owl tendencies and also get more rest, since the house will be quieter.
  • My day might be better organized?  Granted, with three kids and a husband departing for a UT soon, there is a lot of upheaval.  However, the more sleep and earlier start to the day might give me extra time in the a.m. to think my day through.  Even a few extra minutes would help.
  • Perhaps this will help me get over my insomnia issues.  Since I do get tired early in the evening (but I just push through until I get a second wind), this exercise might help me get over resisting that exhaustion and just recognize that I am not doing anyone any good (most of all myself) by staying up later.

Technically, I am starting a day late.  I had a fabulous Girls Night In to attend last night and therefore, exempted myself from starting this until tonight. No way was I going to miss the night out and to say that the evening gave me a huge lift is the understatement of the century.  Good friends, yummy Thai food, wine, chocolate, and fun.  Who could ask for more? 

Since today's surgery was canceled, we have no meetings or activities, and nothing but dinner together tonight, I have nothing to prevent me from trying to get to bed at a decent hour.  Now my only quandary is figuring out exactly when to sleep.  I have a time in mind and will give that a go at first to see if that is enough sleep for me.  

Maybe this will be one of the most ridiculous ideas I've ever had.  On the other hand, it's only for 6 weeks and if it works, it could be life-changing in many good ways.  I'm thinking that daily updates will be difficult, but I am going to try to keep tabs on improvements (more sleep, less crankiness) on a weekly basis.  It might not seem like a sacrifice to some, but if you know me, this might be one of the hardest things I've tried as of late.  Wish me luck?

 

February 21, 2012

I'd be more shocked

that Kelsey's eye surgery for Thursday has been canceled, but let's just call it par for the course, at least for our family.  I am so used to mishaps on the part of anyone and everyone having anything to do with our medical care (to include payments for such care), that I am now surprised when things go the way they should.  Oh, the eye surgery?

Yes, not so much, at least not this week.  Well, I guess it could be Friday, but no one will call us back. Apparently, it was not realized until today that Kelsey could not have her eye surgery in Virginia, as our insurance won't cover it.  Nope, they won't cover us doing an outpatient procedure at the office minutes from our house.  What will they cover?  Apparently, shlepping downtown to Michigan Avenue to the main hospital.  So forget all of our careful planning and coughing ahead of time, we now are waiting to hear when the surgery will be performed.

Kelsey is annoyed as she was hoping to have two days off this week.  Peter is perturbed as once he sets his schedule, he generally needs to keep it as is.  I'm a tad bothered as now I have to figure out all new arrangements for Nick for surgery day, but don't have any dates to plan around.  On the other hand, I suppose at least they let us know before the surgery took place.  I don't want to think about how livid I would be had they waited until the day of surgery or worse, after it was all said and done and a huge (and not covered) bill awaited us.

Now, it would be in keeping with our other insurance/medical billing mishaps, but the mistake would likely have eaten up our entire FSAFEDs account. By some miracle, we have only used $50 thus far this year (Seriously, pinch me, I'm dreaming!).  If you remember, last year we hit our cap by mid-August.  So much for refiling those dental claims.  

This doesn't mean we won't use all of our money (we darn well better), but I'd like it to be a bit more spread out this year.  I had a brief upset when the first claims coming from my plastic surgeon were in the $34K range (no deductible, just a $6K co-insurance).  Then I calmed down, as I noticed that neither the insurance company nor the hospitals or doctors could seem to get anything right billing wise.  One minute a claim is being paid, the next minute it's rejected.  Well, I'm still a teeny bit nervous, but trying not to show it.

Claims are still bouncing back and forth, insurance isn't paying half of what the hospital requested (special rates and all) and no one seems to care.  Peter even called the anesthesia people (who tried to stress me out with a $5K bill) and they said to ignore it for now.  The insurance rejected it, of course (cause it's fun to be awake for an 8 hour procedure?), but okayed my post-surgical anesthesiologist visits (to check how much morphine I wasn't using...not even half of what was recommended, thank you very much).

In fact, one hospital, that will remain unnamed, isn't even billing the insurance for the corrrect person for a procedure from last April.  They have refiled the same claim THREE TIMES.  Each time it is rejected for "the correct diagnosis for sex" (which just makes me giggle) and Peter has to call them and explain that if they continue to put claims for my treatment in his name, they will never get paid.  They promise they will fix it, then they ignore said advice, and 6 weeks later, we get another explanation of benefits that has been rejected because they didn't listen to us.  It's like a little game now.  In fact, I'm not really sure anything since 2010 has been completely resolved, but you know what?

I just don't care anymore.  At this point, as long as we are not receiving random bills for $3,095 or $17K (or so) in the mail, I just don't care.  I am so over this whole mess and wondering if maybe I shouldn't consider being some sort of insurance specialist in my next career.  Just as long as I am the person that gets to put the notation about the diagnosis for sex....

 

 

 

 

 

February 20, 2012

Pinch me!

 

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Celebrating at his Montessori...

As it absolutely cannot be 4 years ago, nearly to the minute (as I typed this post), that the Little Guy arrived in this world.  Mind you, according to him, it's his birthday every time he celebrates.  Therefore, Friday was his birthday (party at school), today was another birthday (a fete courtesy of the Salty Dogs) and tomorrow we will celebrate again with a trip out of town.

 

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Can you guess the theme of the party at Chez Salty Dog?

Since all 3 kids and Peter have the day off, we decided we will spend the day in Baltimore.  We'll see as much in the Maryland Science Center as we can and enjoy an early birthday dinner in Little Italy.  We thought about the aquarium, but as Kelsey put it so succinctly, "Nick needs a place where he can run around.  At the aquarium, you just look at things, while at the science center, you can DO things."

 

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A creation by Cait for the Little Guy.


We all know Nick never slows down.  Well, he does have moments of calm, but they are surrounded by hours of action and to say this makes him a bit different from his sisters would be an understatement.

 

 

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One of the few pensive moments at the party...

It is a welcome difference, though.  From his blond hair and blue eyes to his need for so much activity, it has been a wonder watching him grow, interact with his sisters and enjoy life the way that he does.  And while I am a bit sad that it seems he is changing so quickly, it is so amazing to witness and I really can't wait to see what the next year brings.

 

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A plasma car makes an awesome birthday gift, especially when in Spiderman colors!

Happy 4th Birthday, Little Guy!  We love you!

 

February 19, 2012

744 boxes

later:

 

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In other words, the cookies are here!  We picked them up Thursday night after the Girl Scout meeting and Kelsey and her friends quickly loaded all 717 boxes (27 boxes were donated and thus went straight to the recipients).  It was so much fun to watch them eagerly and happily load up all of the cars.

 

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He really was quite a big helper.

Then, of course, we had to UNload at home, so that we can sort and ship out cookies to 5 states and more than 20 countries.  The Little Guy put himself to work and shlepped in at least 10 boxes on his own. We are now in the process of sorting, delivering locally and packing up those cases that will go overseas. Only 697 boxes actually made it into the house, as 20 were delivered that very evening, so they could taken overseas the next day as a special treat from the States.

 

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One view of 697 boxes....

 

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And another...

Now, back to the sorting, packing and shipping!  On the off-chance anyone wanted to order cookies and missed out on the first go-round, just send a note, as there may still be a few boxes available.  And if cookies are the on the way to you, thank you and enjoy!

February 17, 2012

{this moment}

{this moment} - A Friday ritual. One photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember. If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your 'moment' in the comments for all to find and see. 

 

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Idea courtesy of Soulemama.  

 

February 16, 2012

Ssh....

Kelsey doesn't want anyone (at school) to know, but she will be taking two *sick* days next week.  After years of discussions with her opthalmologists, patching, and updating her prescriptions yearly, Kelsey is finally going to have her bilateral inferior oblique anterior transposition for strabismus.

Translation?  Her left 'lazy' eye, if you will, is going to be fixed.

 

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Note how her left eye seems pushed back...

If you remember years and years ago, we had a wee bit of craziness with Kelsey and medical issues when she was born.  My little nugget came out with a bit of craniofacial asymmetry that was fairly obvious at birth, but became more pronounced as she grew.  She was misdiagnosed not once, but twice with serious genetic disorders that had no cure.  We were told at the time of the second diagnosis, while we were on obstetrical medevac to the U.S.,  to get her to Children's Hospital in DC once we moved back to the U.S. from Caracas.  Well, that is all fine and dandy IF you can get an appointment.  We did, but it was not until May of 2003 (she was born in March 2002) that we could actually see a geneticist at Children's.  

When we finally arrived at the appointment, the geneticist took one look at Kelsey and asked why we hadn't visited pediatric neurosurgery months ago.  Well, had she not been misdiagnosed, perhaps we would have, but until we saw the geneticist, no one ever suggested that Kelsey's 'fix' might be as easy as cranio-facial reconstruction.  While no one agreed with the second (pending) diagnosis, no one suggested it might be as simple as craniosynostosis.

Kelsey did not fit any of the standards except for the facial asymmetry.  She was growing as she should, developing normally, walking, talking, eating, doing everything a baby/toddler should do and right on schedule. The only issue that scared us was the increasing facial abnormality.  From the moment I first recognized the asymmetry, I wondered if plastic surgery wasn't the right (and only answer).  Turns out a mother really does know best.

After making appointments for a CT scan, having said CT scan completed, and having numerous tubes of blood drawn (for a genetic work-up that revealed the craniosynostosis was an isolated incident), we met with the now Division Chief of pediatric neurosurgery at Children's, Dr. Robert Keating. He gave us two options:  we could either schedule a 4 hour craniofacial reconstruction or get a second opinion.  Given that Kelsey was nearly 14 months old and the surgery is ideally performed between 6 and 14 months, we went with option #1.  Dr. Keating had an amazing reputation and resume and would be working hand-in-hand with an equally talented plastic surgeon.

Exactly 3 weeks later, on June 27, 2003, we took Kelsey into Children's in DC at a terribly early hour. We checked in, took her to the pre-anesthesia room and stayed with her until she was asleep in the pre-surgical area.  Four hours later, we were called up to the PICU, as she was out of surgery and would be ready for us to see her soon.  By midnight, she was in the step-down unit and when we returned the next morning, they were ready to transfer her to her own room.  

 

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Mom visiting Kelsey in the PICU. 
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Not even a day later and the change was amazing. 

Four days later, we headed home with the wee one who now had a scar from ear to ear across her scalp, but no other visible clues to her recent ordeal.  She was eating and playing within one day of the surgery, and a week later outside with friends and going to the playground as though nothing major had happened. However, now instead of looking at her and seeing one eye (painfully, in my mind) pushed back, her eyes were nearly equal.  The only problem is that 14 months of being asymmetrical led to muscle weakness in the left eye.  We had monthly and then yearly follow-ups with her pediatric neurosurgeon, but that was it as far as the surgery went.  The eye, however, was a different story.

 

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2 months after surgery...
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Her first pair of glasses.
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Wearing the eye patch and holding a nearly newborn Nick.

For years she has worn glasses as her vision is not fabulous in either eye, and the left eye continued to be a bit lazy.  Her ophthalmologist in Iceland tried patch therapy on it and while it helped, it did not cure the problem.  However, her doctor in California did not feel she was quite old enough to have the corrective surgery and suggested we wait until we moved back to this area. By the time we found a doctor here (who, lo and behold, works on her pediatric neurosurgeon's team at Children's!), he felt enough time had passed and we could soon seriously consider the surgery.

We had a follow-up with her neurosurgeon who was extremely pleased with her progress. We then scheduled the CT scan that would show whether or not the prescribed eye surgery would be of any use. A few weeks later, Kelsey met with the ophthalmologist again and he indicated that not only would it help, but now would be the best time to take care of it (especially since you know who is going you know where soon...).  So, Kelsey will have nothing to eat or drink after midnight next Wednesday night and Thursday, the 23rd, in the early morning, we will head to Children's in Fairfax.  

I have to admit, eye surgeries freak me out a bit.  The eyes are just so...delicate.  However, I did a bit of reading on the technique and it is not nearly as, well, scary, as I had assumed. It is a relatively simple outpatient procedure and Kelsey will not even require an eye patch.  Given that she will have general anesthesia, she will not go to school Thursday or Friday, but we don't anticipate any other issues.

If you are curious, no one knows exactly how much this will help regarding her overall vision.  Her right eye is not perfect either, so it is a given that she will likely continue to wear glasses for the rest of her life.  However, her left eye will no longer drift and it will be interesting to see how this helps her.  While no one has ever really bothered her about this issue, I know she does not like it and has come to realize that the surgery may be a good idea.  In fact, she was completely against it 6 months ago, but decided at the last visit that she could "handle it."  I don't know if this has anything to do with seeing me go through major surgery and come through just fine, but if so, well, good!

If you feel like sending Kelsey a comment at her new email addy or a card, please feel free to do so.  I know she appreciates any and all well wishes, so long as no one at school finds out (eye surgery isn't the 'in' thing this year?).  Maybe she'll start randomly coughing and sneezing Wednesday afternoon to justify her illness, who knows, but we will just be happy to have one more surgery out of the way.  After all, I get to go back in for yet another procedure on April 16 (yes, it's been scheduled) and with Peter leaving for you-know-where on May 21st, we only have so much time to get so many tasks completed. 

February 12, 2012

Just call me Martha

not.  Though I desire to be uber-crafty, I rarely ever get it going on like I should, at least not in the manner of the Crafty Dog.  However, my girls somehow inherited a crafty gene that I had no idea existed in our family.  They can draw and draw and draw all day long.  Not only that, the drawings resemble the ideas that they are based on! Picture that!  

Despite my lack of ideas, I can do things like cut out cards from cardstock AND score them.  It only took me years to figure out how to do this correctly (without wasting oodles of paper), so I am extremely proud of myself (the little things, you know) and like to show off this talent.  Today for the 18th time, I asked Kelsey whether she wanted to make or buy Valentine's Day cards, and she finally decided to make again this year (woot!).  

Now I don't know about anyone else, but to me there is something so sweet about a homemade Valentine's Day card. I figured as long as I could find the paper trimmer and enough cardstock for 20 cards, we were in business.  Lo and behold, I managed both.  We quickly reviewed the card sizes and realized a 4 x 6 card folded in half would be perfect.  They are the size of store-bought cards and since the names were going on the front of the card, no envelope to worry about.

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Ten minutes later, cards were cut and scored, and Kelsey was working away.  I realized right as she was about to start that marker on red paper (even black) would be hard to read at best.  Out came the silver letter stickers that needed using and that problem was solved.  I stuck on the letters, Kelsey wrote the greetings and drew hearts on the inside and an hour later (max), we were finished. The card may not turn into a car or have Sweetarts inside (I can hear her friends' parents thanking me already...), but she put more effort into those than I ever did into the pre-made cards (which we did buy Nick, but I only have so much energy).

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Note to self:  Always check previous year's cards to see if they were fancier;  they were.  Oh, well, I tried.  Now to make the ingredient list for the cupcakes....Oh, all right, I really just wanted to post photos of her making the cards as I think it is so darn sweet and, sniff, one day she might not want to make cards and I'll need this post to remind me of the fun we had....

 

 

 

February 10, 2012

{this moment}

{this moment} - A Friday ritual. One photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember. If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your 'moment' in the comments for all to find and see. 

 

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Idea courtesy of Soulemama.  

 

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